I am incensed
perplexed
and in a way I have to laugh...
The Webster school is opening up for business with the first day for the 3 and 4 year old preschool being Monday, September 25. I registered my younger son there at the same time as my kindergarten child, back in late May, early June. Since then, I have heard nothing, nada, zero from the school department regarding the 3 yeard old pre school. I had to call to get any info and it was vague at best. The kindergarten also failed to send us any information and we learned nothing about where to go or when to report or who was the teacher until DAY 1. Thank goodness for the local newspapers, that was our lifeline.
As for the 3 year old, we received a letter announcing on Open House on Saturday the 16th from 1 to 3PM. The problem was that the letter was only postmarked the DAY BEFORE and I didn't get it until after the Open house was over. Also noted in the letter was that there would be a ADULTS ONLY orientation on WEDNESDAY the 20th from 12 to 1 PM. This orientation is MANDATORY.
At this point I broke out laughing.
First, you send a letter announcing an Open House late enough that almost NO ONE will receive it on time to make it.
Then, you include a mandatory weekday lunchtime meeting for parents where they can't even bring their child along!?
The Webster obviously doesn't want to see any parents.
Finally, my son was scheduled to be in the afternoon class, even though when we signed him up, he was the 3rd child on the list and we requested morning. We really needed the morning classroom. You see, my older son is dismissed at 2:05PM from another Everett Public School that is a good 10 to 15 minutes away from the Webster, which dismisses at 2PM. Considering the dearth of parking at the Webster, it will be impossible to maneuver through the pick up process and still make it to the other school before 20 minutes has passed by. Since no schedule changes are permitted according to the letter, this is the point where I started to experience a nervous tick....
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I had begun this blog article the day before I received that terrible letter, but what I was writing below fits in with the same theme of a lack of understanding....
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I have about had it up to here with expectations of very specific behaviors that are supposed to come from 4 and 5 year old children. Why is it that people blame the children when they act out when we have over 21 children in a kindergarten/ Pre K classroom? Guidance counselors who do NOT have degrees in psychology should not be making mental health diagnoses on a child who in struggling to perform according to expectations. That is what psychologists are for!!! Teachers should not be sending children home as soon as they feel they have lost control of a 5 year old child. It demonizes the child and undercuts the goal of education, which only happens if the child is in school. If a student must be taken out of class in any grade, that student should receive some form of intervention. There are methods available at all age levels that work if staff members really believe in the children. As a professional educator myself, I am confused as to why they are not utilized in several cases I have already witnessed.
If a child is labelled at 5 years old as a mental case, it is all too easy to write the child off and send him or her away without a glance. What then, of that child's future? It is sad that good parents have to suffer indignities and worry when they learn of the little monster that they have unwittingly sent off from home to terrorize children and teachers in school. It is terrible that public schools (not just Everett) are unable to deal with children of varied abilities and strenghts, instead focusing only on expectations of behavior created for the average "cookie-cutter" child. It is sad that hard working parents have to take time off from work to sit through a littany of complaints from staff members and teachers who are not prepared to allow the parent to respond, assist, or explain reasons for behavior. Why does the opinion of the parent have less merit than that of a school staff member who just met the child that day or the day before?
There is nothing in the real world even remotely similar to the experience children have in public education classrooms and yet we are supposed to beleive that a failure of a child to follow arbitrary instructions without explanation, complaint, or frustration is somehow a defect in that child's intellect or behavior.
In any case, it is a major burden on parents to raise their children in the modern world, filled with so many inappropriate and dangerous influences. We want our children to be smart and ethical. We don't want them to be exposed to violence and social ills. It is so difficult to be a good parent in a world where both parents have to work to make ends meet. It is even harder for single parents. So why is it that schools are so reluctant and unwilling to work with parents? How do they expect test scores to increase when neither the students or parents have faith in the system. By alienating parents, schools are making enemies of very powerful allies in the No Child Left Behind fight.